Give what you want, and you will get more

February 23, 2011

If you want more people to like you – like them.

If you want others to be nice to you – be nice to others.

If you want to receive more kindness – give it more often to others.

If you want to be respected by others – demonstrate your respect for others.

If you want more understanding – be more understanding.

If you want to feel more lucky – be more grateful.


What Hurts You Now?

February 20, 2011

What will it take to make that pain go away?

Sometimes it’s time. The loss of a loved one or the healing of a wound.

Sometimes you need to focus on the goal and ignore the pain. Like preparing for an exam or training for a marathon.

Sometimes you need to change what you are doing and stop banging your head against the wall. A job, career or relationship that is not working.

The tough part is knowing the difference and selecting your path of pain relief.


What excited you this week?

February 19, 2011

Happy or angry – that excitment is part of who you are. That is fundamental to your motivation.

My close freind asked to meet for a beer. I agreed instantly.

My dad asked me to to drive him to his doctor’s appointment. I agreed.


Destination vs Journey?

February 17, 2011

 The Fallacy of Goals 

I rode my motorcycle to Port Dover. I’ve been there many times throughout my life but it was my first trip by motorcycle.

I mapped out a route that would avoid the logical roads that I would take by car. I wanted to get away from the traffic.

Of course it took me much longer – almost two hours. I stopped a few times to check my maps. I took a wrong turn and had to back track.

When I arrived I toured the town then stopped for lunch. Munched a burger and fries at the Port Dover landmark “The Arbor” then strolled around.

My visit to Port Dover lasted about 45 minutes then I headed back on the same route. Total time out was about 4 hr 30 min.

Later when I related my journey to a friend he laughed about the curious time imbalance. That’s when I realized that it was never about the destination. That was just a goal of convenience. It was the journey that thrilled me.

It’s not that setting and chasing goals is bad. Maybe it’s a Maslov hierarchy thing where achieving goals meets one level of need and enjoying the journey is a different level.

Maybe…

Or it just might be the musings of a middle aged guy too infatuated with his motorcycle.

What do you think?

George Torok


Cooking Day

February 12, 2011

I’m lucky. I love to cook, but I don’t need to cook every day. My wife also likes to cook. She cooks more often than me. I enjoy her cooking.

So – I don’t need to cook. But I enjoy cooking and she enjoys my cooking.

I cook because I want to, not because I have to. Whenever I annouce that I will cook she allows me to do that.

Today I decided to cook because I wanted to. Cooking makes me feel good. It gains me a few points. And I get to have some fun in the kitchen.

George Torok


How Long Can You Hold Your Breath?

February 4, 2011

Probably one or two minutes. If you are really good, you might hold your breath for up to three minutes.

Breathing is critical to life.

Motivation is critical to growth. You need motivation every day to get up, get going and fight for your share.

You probably don’t think much about beathing or motivating. Yet they are both critical to your life.

Remind yourself to breathe and motivate yourself every day.