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So you had a bad day…

March 6, 2017
Bad things happen

Bad things happen to everyone.


I don’t have enough time to…

February 22, 2013

Time Passes on Motivational Speaker blogMost of us have probably said that more than once. Sometimes it’s used as a polite way to avoid doing something we don’t want to do – like meeting someone or visiting a relative.

 But sometimes we use that phrase as an excuse for not accomplishing our goals.

 The questions you might ask yourself are:

 Do you want to have time to…?

 How much time would you need to start…?

 What could you do less of or stop doing to free up time to…?

 Change your perspective to recognizing that you have enough time. You’re just using that time for something else right now.

Time passes at the same speed no matter what you do. The choice is up to you. What do you want to have done once time has passed?


Motivation to Start Moving or Keep Moving

February 14, 2013

Motivation is about motion.

We need motivation to start moving. That might be a change we need to make. that might be a good idea that we need to stop dreaming about and act upon. We need to start moving.

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Push that stone up the hill

We need motivation part way through to keep moving because we might get discouraged. Part way up the hill we start to feel pain or doubts. That’s normal. But if it was a good idea – we need to keep moving.

Your motivation always comes from within you.  Sometimes it might be triggered or fueled by outside factors. But it’s what’s inside you that channels that energy.

If you want to be motivated – motivate yourself and be more willing to be motivated.

By the way, have you noticed that we don’t need to be motivated to stop moving. That seems to come too easy.

Move or don’t move – it’s up to you.


Angry or Happy – Your Choice

October 18, 2012

“Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” ~  Abraham Lincoln

 When my daughter was about nine and preparing for school, she stomped her feet angrily and declared, “I hate static cling!” I laughed out loud, struck by the absurdity of this disgruntled pronouncement and I gave her a hug, “Static cling doesn’t care if you hate it. Being upset and angry at static cling will in no way change how it behaves. There is no use being upset. The question is, what can you do about it?”

Getting angry at something you can do nothing about is a waste of time and energy. It just makes you look foolish. The real question is; what can you do about it.

Wayne Vanwyck

 


Motivation: How to start your daily run

October 9, 2012

Running for successI run because I feel better after the run.

I don’t think of myself as a fitness nut even though I’ve run at least two full marathons (42 k) 6-30 kilometer races and several half marathons.

I just think of myself as a runner. I’m not a jogger. That sounds like a hobby. I’m a runner. I’ve been running since high school when I joined the Cross Country (aka Harrier) Team.

 Some day I will learn why it was called the Harrier Team.

The point is – I feel much better after I finished my run.

That means when I start my runs I don’t feel well. I run early in the morning which means that often it is rainy or cold.

Often I don’t want to walk out the door.

Occasionally I have crawled back into bed.

But, I’ve never regretted the days that I’ve run. The pain is always short and the joy is what I remember.


Are you ready to forgive?

July 25, 2012

Sometimes life can be unfair to you – and you might need to forgive. Life was unfair to Orlando Bowen. Listen to his story.


Fail More Often

December 28, 2011

Success is on the other side of failure.

If you want to be successful, you must first be willing to fail along the way. Depending on your goals you might need to fail many times.

Author Jim Estill offers this advice to success seekers, “Fail, often, fail fast and fail cheap.”

I believe that failure is a significant stepping stone to success for two reasons:

1. If you are naturally gifted and only do what you are good at you will not appreciate the success that you achieve.

2. Most of us will stumble and fail along the way to success. It’s the stumbling and failures that guide us.

The key is not be be discouraged by failure – inspite of what others might say. Accept failure as part of the process. Consider the number of people who continue to buy lottery tickets even though their bid for the big prize “fails” every week.

Apply that same devotion to the important goals in your life. Laugh at failure and work on your next move.

We learn more from failure than we do from lucky success. Don’t set out to fail but do accept it and move on. Perhaps your goal list for the new year should also include the goal of constructive failures.

If you want to find more success keep discovering new ways to fail forward.

George Torok

Keynote Speaker

Canadian Business Speaker


Who’s Responsible for Your Success?

November 22, 2011

When you are successful – you are responsible.

When you are unsuccessful – you are responsible.

Your level of success is all about you. It might not seem fair but success follows responsiblity. It never follows blame.

 


Creative Problem Solving: Acute vs Chronic Problems video

October 18, 2011

Deal with problems more effectively by understanding the difference between acute and chronic problems. Tips in this video from George Torok about how to recognized the differences and how to attack the problems.


Change the Questions

July 15, 2011

If you’re not getting the answers you want – change the questions.

I heard this valuable advice from Joe Calloway. Let’s look a little deeper into this gem. I agree that asking the right question is much more difficult than answering the question. Asking the question determines the perspective, responsibility and value of the answer.

Smart people ask smart questions. Stupid people ask stupid questions.

Don’t buy into the myth “There are no stupid questions.”

The reality is that there are stupid questions. If you want better results, ask smarter questions.

For example:

If you have been asking, “Why won’t anybody hire me?” change the question to “What can I do to get hired?”

If you have been asking, “Why is business slow?” change the question to “What can I do to improve my business?”

If you have been asking, “Why do I feel so down?” change the question to “ What can I do to feel excited about my possibilities?”

If you don’t like the answers – change the questions.


Confidence – Magic?

June 27, 2011

Confidence

 

Confidence is the currency of success. Like money – the more you have the more you get. Unlike money, you can’t borrow, trade or steal it.

 

Confidence is at the DNA level of every successful person. Yet, they can’t explain, share or give it away.

 

Confidence is a powerful asset. But it can’t be measured, catalogued or repossessed. It’s intangible.

 

Confidence is in the mind of the individual. No one else knows your confidence nor can they take it away from you.

 

Confidence is not perpetual. We often doubt ourselves. Our confidence can jump up and down throughout our day. That’s normal.

 

Confidence is internal. We can’t control that. Others judge us on the external. We can control that.

 

Confidence can’t be seen yet we know when we see a person with confidence.

 

Success is less about luck and more about confidence because that drives persistence.

 

Confidence is the willingness to try again after failure.

Confidence is the power to more forward when the way is not clear.

Confidence is the ability to move past fears.

 


Pain & Hope

May 26, 2011

Pain and hope might be two sides to the same coin. Both necessary parts of our life – like Ying and Yang.

Pain reminds us of yesterday. Hope draws us to tomorrow.

Pain reminds us of past struggles and failures. Hope paints a picture of future success and joy.

Pain can depress us. Hope can excite us.

Pain immobilizes. Hope activates.

We all have our share of pain dragging us down. When it does, flip the coin.

Wherever there is pain – there is always hope on the other side.

Flip the coin and enjoy the hope.

George Torok


Smile – it’s Contagious

May 12, 2011

Smiles beat frowns. Whose side are you on?

A smile is a curve that sets everything straight. – Phyllis Diller

The world always looks brighter from behind a smile. ~ Author Unknown

A smile is an inexpensive way to change your looks.  ~ Charles Gordy
A smile is the light in the window of your face that tells people you’re at home.  ~ Author Unknown

Everyone smiles in the same language.  ~ Author Unknown

I’ve never seen a smiling face that was not beautiful.  ~ Author Unknown

The shortest distance between two people is a smile.  ~ Author Unknown

Smile – George Torok

Motivational Speaker


Stop Trying To Be Perfect

April 19, 2011

It’s a waste of time and repeatedly frustrating because you will never achieve that goal. You will never be perfect. It’s not your fault. It’s just not possible. Instead strive to be better. Set a series of achievable steps. That will reward you with an ongoing stream of successes. They might only be small successes but even a small success is better than failure after failure.

Some say that Edison failed ten thousand times before he invented the light bulb. My guess is that he viewed each experiment a success because he eliminated another false possibility.

Success encourages your confidence. Small successes generate the desire to reach out again and be better.

Real life is not a report card. It’s not about getting A or 100 percent because those yardsticks are not measures of real success. That’s just school stuff.

Instead of chasing perfection, chase one small success after another. That’s more practical and rewarding.

I know many successful people but no one that’s perfect. Successful people get comfortable with imperfection. They focus on success.

George Torok

Motivational Business Speaker

Host of Radio Show, Business in Motion


Who are you?

April 17, 2011

How many times have you heard that question?

How did you respond? Did you state your name? Did you say that you are with the bride’s side of the family? Did you state that you knew the deceased in high school? Did you mumble that you are the child, spouse, parent, or cousin of some one else?

Did you respond with your title? President, manager, or janitor?

Did you respond with a description of your work? Are you a business owner, company executive, accountant, sales rep, mechanic, truck driver, factory worker, nurse, lawyer, clerk, cook, reporter, editor, real estate agent,

Who are you really?

How many times have you asked yourself that question?

Are you an individual or are you only defined in relationship to someone or something else?

We are Borg. That’s one way to answer. Perhaps it’s not about you, It’s about your community.

None of us are one thing. We are individuals living in a complex world. We have many sets of relationships.

Are we defined by relationships?

Are we defined by tribes?

Are we defined by roles?

Are we defined by current, past or future work?

Are we defined by our dreams and hopes?

Are we defined by our pain, mistakes and failures?

Are we defined by our beliefs, opinions and dreams?

Are we defined by our hopes, dreams and goals?

Are we defined by our joys?

Or are you Borg?


Come Back Off the Ledge

March 20, 2011

Perhaps you’ve seen the TV shows or movies where a police negotiator convinces a frantic person to “come back off the ledge” of a skyscraper. “Take my hand. Don’t jump. You have so much to live for.”

Now imagine that you are that negotiator striving to bring a depressed person back off the ledge.

What would you say to the person who justifies their planned suicide with:

“I can’t find a job. Nobody wants to hire me.”

“My wife left me. I thought we would be in love forever.”

‘I hate my parents. They don’t understand me.”

“I ran out of money. I can’t pay the bank.”

“Cancer. Why me? Why suffer any longer?”

“The love of my life died. I’m alone without him.”

“I’m a loser and nobody cares.”

“Everyone is against me.”

You have the opportunity to save this person and bring them back off the ledge. Say the wrong thing and watch them dive to their death.

What would you say?

I suggest that you think about these scenarios and plan your plea. Why? Because you might save a friend some day and you might save yourself.

Add your own “ledge crisis” to this list and search for the answer because maybe the jumper you need to reach is yourself.

Be ready to motivate yourself with the “come back off the ledge” speech.

George Torok

Canadian Motivational Speaker

Business Speaker


Perspective: Times Change

March 4, 2011

If you want to understand people – understand their perspective. One of those perspectives is time.

I remember when:

Everyone had a black dial telephone – and party lines

Sunday night TV was Walt Disney and The Ed Sullivan Show

We got our first colour TV

Listening to records on the new Hi Fi – 45s, 78s and LPs

We bought milk in glass jugs from the corner store – I broke one

Getting the strap at school – more times that I care to admit

Wondering where in the world Vietnam was – and why was it on TV every night?

Listening to air raid sirens and wondering if this was the end of the world

If you want to understand me and people like me then you might need to appreciate some of those things.


Give what you want, and you will get more

February 23, 2011

If you want more people to like you – like them.

If you want others to be nice to you – be nice to others.

If you want to receive more kindness – give it more often to others.

If you want to be respected by others – demonstrate your respect for others.

If you want more understanding – be more understanding.

If you want to feel more lucky – be more grateful.


How Long Can You Hold Your Breath?

February 4, 2011

Probably one or two minutes. If you are really good, you might hold your breath for up to three minutes.

Breathing is critical to life.

Motivation is critical to growth. You need motivation every day to get up, get going and fight for your share.

You probably don’t think much about beathing or motivating. Yet they are both critical to your life.

Remind yourself to breathe and motivate yourself every day.


Happy New Year

January 19, 2011

It doesn’t matter how bad or good the last year was, I always believe that the new year will be better.

I think that is the best way to start any new year. First believe that it will be better. Then do what you can to make it better.

It’s a two step process. You need to do both. Hoping and praying is never enough.

George Torok


Ecstacy – Cold Wind in Your Face

January 10, 2011

Skil HillI love to ski. So you can imagine my ecstasy over my first day of the season on the slopes. It was wonderful as I rediscovered my skiing skills which had been dormant for 10 months.

My friend and skiing buddy, Wayne, was equally excited about our first day of skiing.

However, while we rode a chairlift up the hill we felt the biting wind which was especially chilling on our faces.

My inner voice was thinking, “Damm that’s cold. Maybe we should quit early”. Apparently Wayne was thinking the same thing. That makes two voices screaming “quit”.

Sounds like an easy decision.

No, because another voice was saying, “You came here to ski. It’s too early to quit.”

What could we do?

We skied to another slope facing a different direction. It was less windy. We waited a few minutes at the bottom of the hill to warm up. Then we rode this chair up the hill. It was less windy and all of our voices were singing in harmony – “Let’s go skiing”.

We changed our position, took a brief break and encourage each other to continue skiing.

No challenge or pain is permanent. It might feel devastating at the time. Take a break.

Change your position, perspective or approach and the pain becomes history.

George Torok

Motivational Business Speaker

Canadian Motivational Speaker


I want a Hippopotamus for Christmas – video

December 23, 2010

This silly and light song has got to make you smile – and maybe dance a bit.

Enjoy Your Christmas – smile, laugh & dance

George Torok

Motivational Business Speaker


Jeremiah Was a Bullfrog: Music Video

December 18, 2010

Christmas can be depressing for some but…

December 17, 2010

It’s not about what you don’t have. Be thankful for what you have.

Music can be uplifting. Enjoy these music videos.


Build on Your Strengths

November 9, 2010

Your strengths define you.

Friends like you because of your strengths. They tolerate your weaknesses.

Companies hire and promote you because of your strengths. They might fire you because of your weaknesses.

Your strengths describe your personal brand.

Your strengths make you unique and memorable.

You win because of your strengths.

You can motivate yourself with your strengths.

It’s too easy and a mistake to overlook the power of your strengths. That’s who you are.

Write your strengths down so you can remind yourself when you need that motivational boost. For a special boost ask your best friends to describe your strengths.

Build on your strengths.

George Torok

Motivational Business Speaker

Canadian Motivational Speaker


Confidence: Did you see it?

October 20, 2010

Confidence is the currency of success. Like money – the more you have the more you get. Unlike money, you can’t borrow, trade or steal it.

Confidence is at the DNA level of every successful person. Yet, they can’t explain, share or give it away.

Confidence is a powerful asset. But it can’t be measured, catalogued or repossessed. It’s intangible.

Confidence is in the mind of the individual. No one else knows your confidence nor can they take it away from you.

Confidence is not perpetual. We often doubt ourselves. Our confidence can jump up and down throughout our day. That’s normal.

Confidence is internal. We can’t control that. Others judge us on the external. We can control that.

Confidence can’t be seen yet we know when we see a person with confidence.

Success is less about luck and more about confidence because that drives persistence.

George Torok

Motivational Business Speaker


Run a Marathon

October 5, 2010

A friend is running his first marathon in less than two weeks. He asked me for my advice.  I’ve run two marathons (42 k) and five 30k races.

Below is what I said.

John Stanton (founder of the Running Room) says,

“The first third is easy, the second third is like a long training run and the
last third is why you get a medal.”

My addtional words were:

Don’t worry about your time – just keep moving.

See a strong image of you crossing the finish line in your mind.

If you trained well, your body is ready. The real test will be what goes on
in your mind.

If you are running a marathon soon I hope that these words help you.

George Torok

Motivational Business Speaker

Marathon runner George Torok

Marathon Runner, George Torok


Do your friends motivate you or depress you?

September 20, 2010

You pick your friends. You choose them and you can fire or retire them.

There’s an old expression that says, “You can judge a person by their friends.”

If your friends are thieves – most likely you are one too.

If your friends are successful – most likely you are too.

If you want to be more successful, associate with successful people.

If you want to feel more motivated, associate with motivated people.

If you want to feel good about life and yourself associate with people who feel terrific about life and themselves.

If you want to feel energized, associate with energizing people.

If you want to be smarter, associate with people who make you think.

If want to take charge of your life, associate with people who take responsibility for themselves.

If you prefer to whine and complain – associate with whiners and complainers.

We tend to pick our friends because we are like them or we want to be like them.

Are your choices of friends working for you or against you?

It’s your choice.

George Torok


Superman a Bad Role Model

September 8, 2010

Don’t try to model yourself after Superman. He is super – and you are not. Superman was born powerful – and you were not. Superman is near perfect and you are probably not. Superman has only one weakness – one issue – Kryptonite. How many issues do you have?

Don’t try to be like Superman. It is an easy trap to fall into. It is a no win situation. You would never measure up. All he had to do was to arrive on earth as a baby through no effort on his own and instantly he was super.

Batman – a Better Role Model

Batman is a better role model. Why? Because, he is more realistic. Batman is human with human weaknesses, fears and faults. He has suffered the range of physical and emotional pains. At one point his back was broken by a powerful foe – and still he struggled to fight his way back as the protector of Gotham City.

Batman has no innate super powers. He is what he is because of his knowledge, dedication and training. Batman developed his skills.

Success
Both Superman and Batman are comic book heroes. However we can learn from them.

Our real life heroes are more like Batman than like Superman. Real heroes are the underdogs. Regardless of their circumstance they overcome obstacles through learning, persistence and creativity.

Success comes not from divine birth. It comes from vision, effort and skill development. Be prepared to deal with the odd joker who challenges your mission.

George Torok

Canadian Motivational Speaker

Canadian Business Speaker