I don’t have enough time to…

February 22, 2013

Time Passes on Motivational Speaker blogMost of us have probably said that more than once. Sometimes it’s used as a polite way to avoid doing something we don’t want to do – like meeting someone or visiting a relative.

 But sometimes we use that phrase as an excuse for not accomplishing our goals.

 The questions you might ask yourself are:

 Do you want to have time to…?

 How much time would you need to start…?

 What could you do less of or stop doing to free up time to…?

 Change your perspective to recognizing that you have enough time. You’re just using that time for something else right now.

Time passes at the same speed no matter what you do. The choice is up to you. What do you want to have done once time has passed?


Motivation to Start Moving or Keep Moving

February 14, 2013

Motivation is about motion.

We need motivation to start moving. That might be a change we need to make. that might be a good idea that we need to stop dreaming about and act upon. We need to start moving.

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Push that stone up the hill

We need motivation part way through to keep moving because we might get discouraged. Part way up the hill we start to feel pain or doubts. That’s normal. But if it was a good idea – we need to keep moving.

Your motivation always comes from within you.  Sometimes it might be triggered or fueled by outside factors. But it’s what’s inside you that channels that energy.

If you want to be motivated – motivate yourself and be more willing to be motivated.

By the way, have you noticed that we don’t need to be motivated to stop moving. That seems to come too easy.

Move or don’t move – it’s up to you.


Imagine that the date is December 31, 2013

December 30, 2012

You are reflecting on the events of the past year. Assuming that the year went perfectly, finish these sentences.

 

You did…

You got…

You received…

You helped…

You won…

 

You achieved…

You created…

You built…

You enjoyed…

You completed…

 

You resolved…

You fixed…

You cleaned up…

You started…

You organized…

 

 

Spend some time thinking about each of those sentences. You might have more than one ending for each.

 

After you’ve done that answer the following question for each outcome:

 

What did you do to make that happen?

 


19 Tips for Success in Your Life

December 26, 2012

Powerful tips here. I’m not sure of the source. I like these tips and will expand on each in the new year. Happy New Year to you.

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A long time friend emailed me these little instructions for life. Since it nicely wraps together thoughts on influence, I thought you’d appreciate it. Urban myth cites the author as the Dalai Lama. However, from what I could determine the list is actually extracted from a much larger one featured in Life’s Little Instructions Book by Jackson Brown and H. Jackson Brown, Jr. Enjoy!

INSTRUCTIONS FOR LIFE

  1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
  2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.
  3. Follow the three R’s: Respect for self, Respect for others, and Responsibility for all your actions.
  4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
  5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
  6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
  7. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
  8. Spend some time alone every day.
  9. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.
  10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
  11. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.
  12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
  13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.
  14. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.
  15. Be gentle with the earth.
  16. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.
  17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
  18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
  19. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.

Angry or Happy – Your Choice

October 18, 2012

“Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” ~  Abraham Lincoln

 When my daughter was about nine and preparing for school, she stomped her feet angrily and declared, “I hate static cling!” I laughed out loud, struck by the absurdity of this disgruntled pronouncement and I gave her a hug, “Static cling doesn’t care if you hate it. Being upset and angry at static cling will in no way change how it behaves. There is no use being upset. The question is, what can you do about it?”

Getting angry at something you can do nothing about is a waste of time and energy. It just makes you look foolish. The real question is; what can you do about it.

Wayne Vanwyck

 


Confidence is the Real Currency of Success

September 25, 2012

You can not succeed until you posses the confidence to succeed. You must believe in yourself. (Yes I know that sounds cliché but it is true.)

You need the confidence to sign up. You need the confidence to drive yourself to prepare. You must have the confidence to believe that you can win. You must have the confidence to compete when family and friends doubt you. You must have the confidence to believe that you belong in the room with the other contenders. You must have the confidence to fail and get up again. You must have the confidence to work past the pain that screams stop.

Business, sports, or even social venues the same analogies apply.

Just think of all the scary things you would attempt if only you believed that you would succeed.

If you want to succeed, you need to find more confidence.

What can you do to feel more confident?

First, give yourself permission to have doubts. That is normal. A person who has no self doubts might be insane. But, your clients and competitors don’t need to hear your inner voice.

Second, give yourself permission to strut even when you might not feel that confident. If you look confident – people will believe you are confident and treat you accordingly.

Third, build small wins that make you feel good. Keep a record of those successes to boost your confidence because confidence builds on confidence. You don’t go from zero to 100 in one step. It’s a series of steps and wins over time that build your confidence.

Fourth, be willing to fail. Don’t bet the farm on long shots. Instead take small risks that test your abilities as compared to the competition. Enjoy the wins and learn from the failures. The failures also prepare you for the uncertainty of long term success. You need the failures to teach you to heal quickly.

I believe that your realistic appreciation of failure can be your biggest boost to self confidence.

The more self confidence that you feel the more you will push yourself. The result of that will be two things – more failures and more success.

If you are willing to live with that mix of results the better for you.


Be Clear on Your Purpose

January 25, 2012

Why are you doing this? Ask that question of yourself before you invest your time, money or effort. Clarify the purpose of each meeting, program or decision before you commit.

Why are you making this phone call? Why are you attending this networking event? Why are you investing in this marketing idea? Why are you spending time on this administrivia?

Before every meeting, clarify the purpose and time limit. Your meeting will be more productive and people will be more willing to meet with you. For example, I almost never return a phone call in response to a message that states, “Call me”.  My first thought is, “Why?” What would be the purpose of my return call?

Many rules and policies have lost their purpose.

If you find that people are answering your question about purpose with “We’ve always done it this way”, then you know that they are overdue to seriously address this question.

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This is part of the Top 10 Tips to Make 2012 a More Productive and Profitable Year as originally broadcast on the radio show Business in Motion on 93.3 CFMU by your host, George Torok. To listen to the 30 minute radio show, visit the Business in Motion podcasts.